Children are great fun, but sometimes they test our patience. Both parents and nannies can have a hard time. And keeping calm in certain situations is sometimes not easy at all. But if we can persevere, we can often solve the problem quickly, and you can learn to have patience with your child.
A tired, scared, or busy child who is constantly demanding can make you bleed from the tips of your fingernails. Or they may keep screaming, get bogged down in massive tantrums, or start hitting and kicking. Then try to restrain yourself. That doesn’t always work either. You don’t have to feel guilty because you are human. The most important thing is to understand that your attitude reflects on your children. So often, when you lose your temper, you only make the situation worse.
However, being patient with a child is easier said than done. But whether you are a babysitter or a parent, these tips will help you control your emotions by rationalizing the situation. If you can do this, you will already control the situation and will no longer be forced to go along with the child.
1) Stay in Touch With Your Child’s Feelings
Try to get inside your child’s head. What does he want to tell you on a whim? Is he demanding something he can’t do yet? Often a child does not listen because he does not understand what you are trying to say. A young child, in particular, sees so many distractions that he may forget what he heard two seconds later.
2) Ask Yourself Why You React the Way You Do to Your Child
Examine your reactions. Ask yourself what attitudes of your child upset you the most and why. When your child is throwing a tantrum, is he or she perhaps doing something else? Once you know the cause, you can work on a solution. What can you do to prevent them from losing their temper anymore? How can you handle different situations? Knowing which buttons your child is pushing can help you avoid reacting and, in many cases, be more patient.
3) Make Time for Your Children
Maintaining patience for children requires that you take the time to do things for them. Start early, especially at a time when they want to do everything on their own. Does your child want to put on his or her shoes by themselves? Then start 15 minutes earlier than usual. Your child is just taking the first step toward autonomy and independence, and your job as a parent or babysitter is to support them. Even if it is only for 10 minutes. Help only if they ask for it themselves. During this time, remain calm and patient. Be gentle. If a child asks you to help, of course you will help.
4) Explain What Will Happen
Actions have consequences. Explain the consequences of their actions to the child. Say, “If you keep talking like that, I’ll be late finishing my meal. Then you won’t be able to play until bedtime.” Repeat this several times if necessary. Don’t stop? Then the food will last longer, and they won’t play. After all, you have explained to him what happens. Children need their own way of doing things, and it is up to the parents and babysitters to find it.
You can also explain how the child’s behavior affects you. Children are often sensitive because they want to please you, too. So if you say, “I’m angry” or “I’m sad,” the child will get it. It may not always work, but it is worth a try.
Let us know if these few tips have helped you in the comments below!